If having a healthy marriage seems impossible, it’s because it is. But, we have a loving Heavenly Father who wants to make it possible. We believe the number one essential of a healthy marriage is to allow God to control our lives. Our number one goal is for you to … Trust God.

Supporting Scriptures

  • Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
    Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)
  • For I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. You will seek Me and find Me when you seek Me with all your heart.
    Jeremiah 29:11-13
  • Jesus said, “I am the vine, your are the branches, he who abides in me will bear much fruit, apart from me you can do nothing.”
    John 15:5
  • Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain.
    Psalm 127:1 (NIV)
  • Your wife will be like a fruitful vine, flourishing within your home. And look at all those children! There they sit around your table as vigorous and healthy as young olive trees. That is the Lord’s reward for those who fear him.
    Psalms 128:3-4

Everyone agrees that communication is far and away the most common and most serious problem in marriage. Sometimes it feels like you just speak a different language. Heart-Level communication should be at the core of every marriage. We believe it is essential for you to … Cultivate Communication.

Supporting Scriptures

  • But let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.
    James 1:19 (NASB)
  • Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
    Ephesians 4:25-27
  • If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
    Romans 12:18 (NIV)
  • Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
    Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)
  • A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger; The tongue of the wise makes knowledge acceptable, but the mouth of fools spouts folly.
    Proverbs 15:1-2 (NASB)

One of the primary reasons for divorce in America today is because of disagreements over finances and the strain debt places on a marriage. One of the things we do to feed this statistic is continue to buy things we can’t afford to try to keep up with the Jones. We feel couples should … Act Their Wage.

Supporting Scriptures

  • Wealth and honor come from you; you are the ruler of all things. In your hands are strength and power to exalt and give strength to all.
    1 Chronicles 29:12 (NIV)
  • But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
    1 Timothy 6:6-10
  • I know that nothing is better for them than to rejoice, and to do good in their lives, and also that every man should eat and drink and enjoy the good of all his labor—it is the gift of God.
    Ecclesiastes 3:12-13 (NKJV)
  • For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
    Luke 12:34
  • So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches?
    Luke 16:11 (NIV)

The power of romance, sex, and intimacy can be marriage’s biggest ally, or it’s biggest enemy. We greatly desire our spouses to remember that we have certain needs. Soul Mate believes the goal should be to remember first that our spouses have certain needs. We feel this is the best way to … Nurture Romance.

Supporting Scriptures

  • Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
    Hebrews 13:4
  • Drink water from your own cistern, And fresh water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? Let them be yours alone, And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love.
    Proverbs 5:15-19 (NASB)
  • But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his own soul.
    Proverbs 6:32
  • No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
    1 Corinthians 10:13 (NIV)
  • But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife. So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.
    1 Corinthians 7:2-5

Even the healthiest marriages can get off track sometimes. We need other couples in our lives to walk with us through the difficult times and celebrate with us during the great times. God created us to be relational. That’s why marriages need to … Crave Community.

Supporting Scriptures

  • See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
    Hebrews 3:12-13
  • I appeal to you, brothers, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another so that there may be no divisions among you and that you may be perfectly united in mind and thought.
    1 Corinthians 1:10 (NIV)
  • And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.
    Hebrews 10:24-25 (ESV)
  • As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
    Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)
  • Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
    1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)

Why do some couples’ differences pull them apart, and other couples’ differences draw them together? No matter which couple you think you are, Soul Mate believes that embracing these differences can only strengthen the marital bond. God designed men and women to be very different. We want you to … Embrace Differences.

Supporting Scriptures

  • Haven’t you read, he replied, that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.
    Matthew 19:4-6 (NIV)
  • Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
    1 Corinthians 13:47-8 (NIV)
  • Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
    Ephesians 4:1-3
  • Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
    Philippians 4:8
  • Now we who are strong ought to bear the weaknesses of those without strength and not just please ourselves. Each of us is to please his neighbor for his good, to his edification. For even Christ did not please Himself; but as it is written, “THE REPROACHES OF THOSE WHO REPROACHED YOU FELL ON ME.” For whatever was written in earlier times was written for our instruction, so that through perseverance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus, so that with one accord you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God.
    Romans 15:1-7 (NASB)